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Saturday, July 2, 2016

Sex..the hush hush affair..



Don't castrate,
                      But educate. - Himmilicious..

So all eye balls right here... Well the word alone is enough to raise the attention. We all are becoming modern family going on all girl's trip to partying with our children, Good hai!! But SEX, hooo !!! how can we talk about that with our children, we have some values right??? wrong.
The other day I went to meet my friend Devyani and in between our chit chats I asked her 17  years daughter ' what is her opinion about Sex. Her not so urban mother immediately gave her the go inside look and she giggling like a 3 year old went. Obviously my loving friend was not looking so happy with me talking about the word S..
BUT WHY???? I always wonder why. Why we don't want to talk about it? Why is it a taboo?? We all do it, we share the so called non veg jokes ( well I also wonder why they are said NON VEG jokes ). She can let her darling daughter read Mills & boon, the dear daughter can watch adult movies and flip channels while  mummy is around but no sex talks, why?? Why can't we educate them ( OK , here I don't mean teaching them how to do it , but how to go for it RESPONSIBLY )

  If I go by facts , we are a country of 1.2 billion and also the 5th largest country watching porn but terribly poor in educating our children. So can we just grow up and understand that when they hit puberty their inquistiveness about the outside world and the opposite sex is just a part of their growing up.I think before we get into the sorry  situation let's teach them so they learn the facts, set boundaries for themselves. Also we will be able to avoid rape, molestation, child abuse, early pregnancy ...
I don't want it to be a gyan  session but yes thanks to the Google baba and growing awareness here are few books to help you and your  anxious one's..
1. What's happening to my body by Linda Madaras ( age 11-15 ) : it's a perfect book to teach your young boys and girls about their growing up.
2. SEX by Nikol Hasler ( age 16+ ) : this book will make you leave all your awkwardness behind and will help your older kids to grow responsible towards sex.
     Let's stop being ill informed...
           

26 comments:

  1. Definitely a non taboo topic to write on. I also share the same belief that right sex education can bring a lot of positive changes to the prejudices of and crimes in our societies.

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    1. Seriously Pranju.. We hear so much every day in news still we don't want to educate and how can we talk after all we are the sanskari people.. :)

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  2. Ha ha ha ... This is so True! We are one of the biggest hypocrites. We all do it, but we will pretend as if we all are Sanyasis and the 'S' word is a big sin. Such mindset causes youngsters to scramble whatever right/wrong information they can get from internet, and sometimes (or many times) instills unreasonable thoughts and fancies in them.

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    1. Actually with the age every one have there own fantasies and what's wrong in teaching them . we are quite happy in our own world assuming no one knows nothing but the digital world is teaching them all. But as you rightly said we are the biggest hypocrites

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    2. And did u just said we all do it.. Nopes we are the sanskari people.. Lol

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  3. Dear Mansi, you have very aptly raised the much debatable topic, and I absolutely stand for your argument my friend. It's high time that we need to open up about sex education, be it our children or our friends who are caught up in the unawareness!

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    1. I am really glad Jyotika that we are on the same page. Seriously it's high time we need to be open and talk about it. They are so inquisitive, and as they say little knowledge is always a dangerous thing. So educate Thanks for stopping by.

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  4. Awareness is very important and it's good you're recommending two books too.

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    1. Exactly sir,that's precisely my point.creating awareness at the very first step Starting from home.. Thanks

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  5. Sex is overrated....totally ...esply in our country....and tell me if we don't talk are the children not going to know about it? the internet has it all :)

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  6. I totally agree with you.. Children today have so much exposure that if you stop them at home they have many other places.. So why not at first place educate them..

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  7. Thanks for sharing the names of the two books... It is better to learn from the right source rather than going through the wrong route.....

    Natureram

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    1. Trying to spread little awareness Debopam.. I am glad you liked it..

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  8. There is a lot of sex jokes and explicit imagery in the TV programmes and films that kids watch every day along with their parents. Twenty years back what was classified as porn and found in magazines is now mainstream. However, people in India haven't grown up. I know of one case a girl was experimenting and her parents found that she was 5 months pregnant. Lack of sex education is a big problem.

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    1. This is what exactly happens, so much curiosity and little knowledge make them experimental and result is exactly what you are telling. I really don't understand the harm of talking with them about this. Thanks for your views on the same.

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  9. Yes our society need to open up more and sex education should not continue be a taboo.

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    1. With the growing world and we becoming more aware this is the need of hour

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  10. But "who will bell the cat?"---who will start and try to make the awareness towards sex education. its much needed in the country like India where population is increasing day by day in lips and bounce and simultaneously the crimes like rape is also increasing.sex education will make people aware and will answer the teenage curiosities(basic instincts) which generally leads the boys and girls to perform unwanted activities.
    its really very good to see your courage to write about it, specially being a girl...

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    1. Who will bell the cat.. Surely it has to start with us.. With anyone of us and all of us.. And as you said it right being the most populated country it is all the more needed.
      Thank you once again for all the appreciation Mr. Sarkar

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    2. Who will bell the cat.. Surely it has to start with us.. With anyone of us and all of us.. And as you said it right being the most populated country it is all the more needed.
      Thank you once again for all the appreciation Mr. Sarkar

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